RAY'S REPORTS

Last night I spilled some sweet and sour sauce on the floor while having some lumpia. I thought I had cleaned most of it up before I returned to eating, but I had not. I stepped on a biggish dot of it (socks on) and stamped it all over my house. I didn’t notice it until the next morning.

I was annoyed and while cleaning up the tracks I wondered if the irritation actually outweighed the level of satisfaction of this particular dinner. It did.

They say that negative feelings are at least 5 times stronger than the positive feelings. Like if you found a $100 dollar bill, you would be psyched for sure but if you lost it later that day, the pain of that loss will be felt 5 more times than when finding it.

This is kind of proof that we are motivated by “avoiding pain” more than “seeking pleasure”.

Could it work in reverse? Do we feel a feeling 5x more after someone disses us versus gives us a compliment? We do.

Does this mean it’s 5x harder to be nice? No, but you could say it takes 5 acts of niceness to have the equal impact of 1 act of meanness, so yes?

Sometimes foundations doors walls windows gets rocked for whatever reason. Naturally, you then replace or repair. I don’t know if it’s from becoming older or if it’s because of the current state of affairs, but folks these days are extra fortified in their positions. What was once a white picket fence is now a thick concrete wall with armored guards.

I’m not saying to not have beliefs or boundaries or non negotiables, but consider the production costs on some of them. And are those costs making the world bigger or smaller?

I am saying we are participating in the co-creation of reality whether we know it or not. And like everything else in nature, we are either growing or shrinking.

“It’s better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.” – Unknown

Do you feel hurried lately? I do too. Like scrambly like hyper. I had a bunch of ideas of what to do once the world opened back up post pandemic and now that it’s half opened up those ideas dried up or are drying up.

The vibe is all vibes. No more to-do lists, just vibes.

Have patience during installation of new operating system.

“Patience is not passive, on the contrary it is concentrated strength.” – Bruce Lee

Sometimes I catch myself noticing all entries and all exits when I enter a bar or restaurant. I don’t know why. Some mobster movie I remember as a kid, some character saying he always has to face the door when sitting down for food.

In the restaurant of life, are we aware of all possible entries and all possible exits and our current position in relation to these entries and exits?

I think about this when I have already started a project and am not feeling it, like maybe I entered the project too late or too early or came in the side door instead of the front door and I don’t really know how to get out unless I jump out the second floor window. Or not. Just saying.