Oct 20 2021

5x

Last night I spilled some sweet and sour sauce on the floor while having some lumpia. I thought I had cleaned most of it up before I returned to eating, but I had not. I stepped on a biggish dot of it in my sock and stamped it all over my house. I didn’t notice it until the next morning.

I was annoyed and while cleaning up the tracks I wondered if the irritation actually outweighed the level of satisfaction of this particular dinner. It did. “Was the juice worth the squeeze?,” is a question/saying that comes to mind. It was not.

They say that negative feelings are at least 5 times stronger than the positive feelings. Like if you found a $100 dollar bill, you would be psyched for sure but if you lost it later that day, the pain of that loss will be felt 5 more times than when finding it.

This is kind of proof that we are motivated by “avoiding pain” more than “seeking pleasure”.

Could it work in reverse? Do we feel a feeling 5x more after someone disses us versus gives us a compliment? We do.

Does this mean it’s 5x harder to be nice? No, but you could say it takes 5 acts of nice to have the equal impact of 1 act of mean, so yes?

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